THERE IS NO GREATER LOVE THAN A MOTHER FOR HER CHILD. THERE IS NO GREATER PAIN THAN A MOTHER WHO HAS LOST HER CHILD.
There are plenty of resources out there regarding infant loss and grief. I am the type of person who seeks out information in hopes of making sense of any situation. I wish that I was researching fetal development, as opposed to how to deal with the loss of Aria. I am approaching week 4 of my loss. While I understand Aria is gone and there is nothing I could have done differently to save her, this is a significant week for me. Prior to 24 weeks, labor is not stopped by my medical practice because the baby is not viable (does not have complete lung function). The belief is that it is natures way of taking care of things: prior to 24 weeks, there is either a problem with Mom so the baby must be born or there is a problem with the baby- a genetic defect. It goes without saying, the significance of the week lies in the fact that at 24 weeks my labor could have been stopped or they would have attempted to save Aria when she was born. It is not easy to read the stories of people who had their labor stopped before 24 weeks and went on to have a healthy baby. In addition, it is not easy to read the stories of children who survived being born at 24 weeks and are now problem free. Yes, I know that is probably a rare occurrence and those children are extremely lucky. Regardless, it does not make losing Aria any easier.
